
Good sign number one: I called my McCain-supporting father to see if he'd babysit, and he said yes.
Good sign number two: After I showed my kids pictures on the web of other Obama rally crowds, explained to them they'd be elbow to elbow with others, that there'd be long lines, lots of noise, and lots of waiting - my son still wanted to go. This would be my son with Asperger's Syndrome. He asked me to bring earplugs, just in case.
Well far be it from me to squelch the fledgling political interests of my children, ASD or not, so off we went.
After finding parking off-site, we arrived around 2:15. The line was already long, probably a thousand or two people ahead of us. We settled down to wait for the gates to open. I brought a blanket to sit on, and books for my son to read, but I forgot water. Not smart. My son started a tale of woe almost immediately, complaining of thirst. Then he started sneezing excessively - you could SEE pollen and dust and weeds thick in the air if you squinted towards the sunlight. Not good - he can easily derailed by stuff like this.
Son, after a loud, goopy sneeze: "I wish I wasn't sneezing!"
Me: "I'm so sorry, hon. Here, use this tissue. Try to sneeze more discretely."
Son, near tears: "I'm trying! I can't help it!"
Me: "Here, take this benadryl. I wish I had Claritin with me, that wouldn't make you sleepy."
Son, increasing anxiety: "Sleepy?! I don't want to get sleepy! I'm already tired!"
Me: "No, no hon, it says it is a POSSIBLE side effect. You may not get sleepy. Don't worry about that anyway, you can put your head on my lap if you do. The important thing right now is to stop the sneezing."
Son, even more anxiety: "I feel like I can't breathe!"
Me, as soothingly as possible: "Hon, you can breathe. Let's do deep breathing through our mouths together, and get the air all the way deep in our lungs."
Son: "Maybe its because there aren't any trees next to us. You said trees give off oxygen."
Me: "Well, that's true, but I promise you the air has plenty of oxygen even if we aren't next to trees."


Once inside, my first mission was to find out about the helicopter in the air that was making my son nervous. A policeman informed him that it was most likely a press helicopter.
Second mission, find water. I got in what I thought was a long line for a concession stand, and an Obama volunteer directed me to the proper place, to the end of an even longer line. I asked if there was another place I could purchase water for my son, and the volunteer said, somewhat conspiratorially, that he'd get me a bottle,.
Third mission, find a place to sit! Initially we were up front, quite close to the stage. However, I realized my son would not be able to see over the tall adults standing in front of us, so we sought refuge on the slope in the back of the site. We had much more room to breathe back there - it was positively civilized compared to the crush of up front, so we were quite satisfied with our move.
Now it was about 4:30. Only one hour to wait! At 5:00 festivities began with the Pledge of Allegiance, a prayer, and the National Anthem. Then we waited a bit longer and saw a motorcade drive behind the stage. The crowd began screaming and clapping, both my son and I were energized by the enthusiasm and joined in.

Then Governor Kaine came out and spoke. Through all of this, my son was jumping up and down and clapping at the right parts, his enthusiasm still running high.

Unfortunately, around this time my son started getting upset. The sun was shining in his peripheral vision, it was getting colder, people kept shifting into his line of sight, he couldn't see Senator Obama very well anyway (we forgot our binoculars), and he had worn out his attentiveness listening to the earlier speeches. I coaxed him into listening a little bit more, and then headed out. The last thing I heard Senator Obama say was how he doesn't like to count his chickens before they hatch, regarding polls and elections.

All in all, a very enjoyable afternoon for this Republican, Catholic Obama supporter.
I actually used to work for two Republicans on Capitol Hill - admittedly, they were the Republicans that the right wing of the party tries to get rid of (unsuccessfully, I might add, both of my former bosses are still in Congress). And, based on some of the flyers that are being left on my van after Mass, many Catholics would cheerfully excommunicate me because of how I plan to vote. Nevertheless, that is how I view myself.
I consider myself pro-life. In fact, one of the reasons I became Catholic was because I fundamentally believe in the inherent dignity of human life. The Catholics I've known and admired have always been concerned about and active on behalf of the disenfranchised, trying to improve their lives. They've opposed the death penalty, believing that people can be redeemed. They've advocated diplomatic efforts before military force, believing that the loss of innocent lives, regardless of race, creed, or religion, is to be avoided. And, they've opposed abortion, believing it to be the killing of unborn children.
I, too, believe that abortion is a grave evil, that people are far too quick to abort what I believe to be a human being. I don't understand that. I'd like to see reasonable regulations regarding abortions, as well as more policies that encourage and help pregnant teens and women choose life.
One more thing. I have a child with a disability. I love my son with all my heart, but believe me it is not a cake walk, and he is considered high functioning ASD. We were able to meet his incredibly expensive and demanding private therapy needs without plunging our family into poverty, breaking up our marriage, or any of the other common negative outcomes, and our son has made tremendous progress. But not everyone has the resources we had. If the government is going to consider forcing a woman to deliver a child with any serious, severe disability, then the government absolutely must be willing to provide for the enormous therapeutic and educational needs of that child, to guarantee that child has health care, to ensure the child's family earns a living wage, etc... If these things were in place, then perhaps more people would choose life without laws forcing them to do so.
Other issues matter to me as well. I am not a single issue vote. I am thrilled by the opportunity and change that Senator Obama represents. I believe that the Republican mantra of unbridled "deregulation" in every industry (telecommunications, airlines, banking, energy, health, etc...) is a recipe for greed and disaster. I believe we need to be better stewards of the earth. I believe diplomatic efforts should be exhausted before our country commits to war. I believe that people who work hard ought to be able to provide a decent standard of living (certainly above poverty) for their families. I believe Americans should not be one health crisis away from financial ruin. I believe that our society needs to show more compassion for those who have mental illnesses, disabilities, and/or addictions. And, I believe that Senator Obama will take on these issues, and others, if he is elected President.
As a moderate, I confess to some unease that perhaps Senator Obama is more liberal than his speeches make him seem. But, to be honest, I am more worried that Governor Palin IS as conservative as she seems. And I'm worried that Senator McCain, who I've admired in the past for his reasonable positions on the environment, on immigration, on torture, etc..., may be less willing to stand his ground on these issues with the conservatives, particularly given his selection of a running mate.
Well anyway. My son and I had a great day!
2 comments:
Yay!!!!! I'm not alone!!!
I ran across this blog entry, in a forum and I can't tell you how good it made me feel.
I'm a female Republican Christian (Lutheran), who's now supporting Obama, and I feel the need to thank you.
I've been very confused and it looks like I have the same concerns as you do, with the present Republican Presidential ticket.
The Palin thing, and the fact that they passed over Olympia Snowe, this election especially, blows my mind. She would have been a perfect fit for McCain to complete this ticket, and I was very upset, but tried to see what they see in Palin, and I'm sorry, I just can't do it. She's the deal breaker for me too, for the same reasons you've stated.
I'm going into uncharted terrority here and have been very confused, but today, reading your blog, it all made sense.
I'd like to thank you, for the beautiful and honest way you shared your thoughts and day in this blog. It's helped me come to terms with what I feel I have to do.
Republican women for Obama. Yes it does make sense. :)
Thank you and looking forward to reading more, if you care to share in your blog. Am going to read a bit more and hope you don't mind.
Again, I'd like to thank you. God bless from Maine.
Vio (Another Republican woman who's supporting Obama, because it just makes sense)
Thank you for taking the time to leave me such a kind note - it was a difficult decision at the time.
And I share your thoughts on Senator Snowe - she's spent her entire life in public service and would have been a good fit with McCain.
We're all going into uncharted territory with an Obama Administration - its incredibly exciting. I hope he is a good, strong, ethical leader...
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